People often ask us how we choose our subjects.
The answer is simple: we choose women we admire.
The premise of the blog is to try and push the boundaries of who gets to be seen. You don’t have to be photoshopped or work in a glamorous industry to be featured. And if we’re being honest, even the so-called “glam” careers depicted on television – like magazine editors in shiny skyscrapers or romantically-entangled surgeons in operating rooms – feature a different, more realistic daily struggle.
All of the women we showcase are leaders in their professions: they help move society forward, develop solutions to problems and create pathways to new frontiers; others are raising children and staying active and social, all while trying to be the best versions of themselves.
And yet, when approaching females for our features, there was a common response throughout the interview process. It was a bit of hesitation, mixed with an incredulous response such as, “Really? Me?”
Trust me, I know the feeling.
When I first had the idea for the blog, it took me a long time before I shared the dream with anyone. I didn’t think people would care, even though I saw a gap in the blogosphere for real career stories from women. Like anyone, I can be tough on myself. I find I often justify praise with a bit of deflection, like, Oh thanks, but I only bought this for $10.
It’s an underlying insecurity that we all face at times, whether we’re six years old on the playground, or sitting across from someone in a job interview: Why would I be chosen when there is someone smarter, more accomplished, and better out there? Similarly, when not chosen and faced with rejection, the same monster rears its head and shouts, See, I told you, you’re not good enough.
With a fresh year already begun, I want to share an intent rather than a resolution. Think of it as a daily, weekly, or monthly reminder. Here it is:
You are amazing. When someone offers a compliment, say thank you. When you receive praise or recognition, accept it without further justification. And when you get a slice of the spotlight, put your shades on, tilt your head back, and bask in it.
Be proud of who you are – there’s no one else like you.
Here’s to an awesome new year!
Editor & Co-Founder, Be the Next Her